About Schmidt is a dry, elusive comedy about a freshly retired Vice President of a extremely celebrated insurance company. Warren Schmidt doesnt adjust to retired life good and populating in Omaha, Nebraska doesnt aid. Helen, his married woman of 42 old ages tries to hearten him up by reminding him of their programs to go America I their RV. But Schmidt is apathetic. He sees a commercial for a kids foundation and begins patronizing a kid in Tanzania named Ndugu. The narrative is narrated through letters to this male child. His married woman all of a sudden dies of a blood coagulum in her encephalon. While traveling through her old things and reminiscing, he finds old letters of an matter she had thirty old ages ago with a co-worker and close friend. After a twosome of hebdomads of sloth, he decides to surprise his lone girl, Jeanie, by taking a route trip to Denver, Colorado before her nuptials to H2O bed salesman, Randall. Jeanie refuses him and Tells him non to come. Warren decides to see

old topographic points such as his childhood place and his alma affair in Kansas. He meets a twosome and has positive interaction with them, but ruins it when he tries to snog Vicky, a married adult female. It is subsequently that dark, while on the route, he reflects and forgives his married woman unfaithfulness. He realizes his failure as a good hubby and races to salvage his girl from doing the same error. He tries to halt her but she replies by stating he will back up her or go forth. He attends the nuptials and goes place, chew overing what good in the universe he has done. Upon reaching at place, he finds his first missive from Ndugu teacher stating him all about the male child. It is enclosed with a picture of Warren and Ndugu and he weeps, recognizing the good he done.

Character Description

The chief character, Warren is played by Jack Nicholson. Warren is an emotionally absent, 66 twelvemonth old adult male who is widowed during the film. He is serious, quiet, and socially awkward. Jeanie is his lone girl. She is likely in her mid-thirtiess. She marries Randall in the film. She is slightly like her male parent but is responsible and caring like her female parent. Her relationship with her pa is strained and she accuses him of ne’er being interested in her life. He tries to be a austere male parent but she is strong and lets him cognize she is in charge of her ain life and she will do her ain determinations. Helen dies in the beginning of the film, but her personality is introduced. She is sweet, lovingness, and tidy. While she is alive, Warren expresses his irritations from the manner she sits, to her small aggregations. He writes, ?Who is this old adult female life in my house? Randall is what some might name a yokel. But he is sort and emotionally cognizant. He is a spot ob

livious to societal cues, though. Warren does non O.K. of his battle and matrimony to Jeanie.

Communication Problems

The biggest communicating job portrayed in the film is besides a chief constituent of the secret plan. Schmidt relationship with his girl Jeanie is full of communicating jobs on both sides. First, Schmidt doesnt cognize how to pass on his feelings to his girl without aching her. This is apparent in the scene when he and his married woman call to talk with Jeanie and her groom-to-be Randy. Alternatively of speaking to Jeanie about how he feels about the battle, he pretends everything is all right. The defeat and choler of this repression frequently comes out in his letters to a starvation kid he is patronizing. He feels as if Randy is replacing him in his older girl life. Because Schmidt keeps all of these emotions indoors, he is seen as a cold individual and choruss from holding the necessary personal relationships one demands. He deficiency of feeling is highly evident when his married woman dies. He is avoidant and ne’er picks up on societal cues in any con

versation, as when Randy female parent attempts to score him in a hot bath and when he mistakes a fellow camper empathy for love affair.

Some communicating can assist jobs while others can merely intensify them, as in the instance of Warren Schmidt and his deficiency of emotion and personal relationships. Because of his troubles, he is lonely and down and lets his girl take advantage of him. The one clip that he decided to state his girl about his disapproval of the nuptials he gets austere and asks to talk to her. After a minute she gives in and negotiations with her male parent. He expresses his concerns, though non really good. Alternatively of opening up a duologue, this created a job and Jeanie became defensive. This merely worsened the fragile relationship between male parent and girl.

Another job of the film is that of the character Randall. He is emotional and a happy cat. But he lacks empathy and tack. Often he would state something to pique Schmidt or do him to be irritated. He seldom noticed and ne’er seemed to care about the harm that was done between all the characters in the narrative. He Didnt cognize how to manage societal cues and couldnt read Schmidt uncomfortable organic structure linguistic communication.

Although Randall had problem pass oning with Schmidt because of a personality clang, he was a great communicator with his future married woman. This was apparent during a battle the twosome had. After they had a opportunity to chill off, Randall went to Jeanie and talked calmly and besides listened good. Randall tested to quiet Jeanie frights about the nuptials and her relationship with her male parent. The two of them worked through the job and got married the following twenty-four hours.

Lessons Learned

Warren Schmidt apathetic nature and his girl deficiency of apprehension or ability to perforate that outside is much like a communicating conflict I have in one of my ain relationships. My spouse is really unagitated and keeps to himself so it is hard for me to decode what he needs or wants. Often I feel as if he is cold and I am non understanding. This leads to defensiveness and conflict. But unlike Schmidt and Jeanie, my spouse and I frequently resolve our jobs after a chilling off period and have learned to compromise. Watching the jobs in the film merely made it more of import for us to maintain composure and discourse jobs in a matter-of-fact manner.